This is an interesting quote, it could mean one of two things. Either you are maintaining the status quo, you are not implementing change, you are indeed letting it be. This could be because what you are doing or saying, or how you are being is working for you and those around you. Or, you are ignoring the negative things you are thinking, doing, or experiencing. Either way, the phrase ‘let it be so’ implies a lack of reflection and a lack of movement. It is a passive mindset, on the one hand in a place of comfort and on the other one of discomfort.
Movement and growth is important though, whatever the situation because a lack of growth will in the end, result in discomfort and poor wellbeing. In essence if you stay long enough in your comfort zone, it will will begin to feel as though you are trapped there.
Moving from a Place of Comfort
If you are in a place of comfort, it is important to regularly connect back to your purpose, to what’s important to you because if you lose sight and feeling around that, you will no longer feel comfortable, you will be stuck. To get yourself moving, celebrate the achievements that got you to this place. Now create some goals for the next stage of life, work/career, family and/or community – whatever it is that connects with your purpose. Importantly, notice when you have reached these goals, celebrate and make new ones for the next 3 to 5 years. Repeat.
Moving from a Negative Place
If you are experiencing negative thoughts and emotions as a result of the situation you find yourself in, it is probably time to make some changes to your mindset. I read this quote by Eckhart Tolle in this Inc article yesterday 2 Remarkably Powerful Mindsets to Move You Through Difficulty (link below article). It resonated with me, so I share it here.
“Wherever you are, be there totally. If you find your here-and-now intolerable and it makes you unhappy, you have three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it totally. If you want to take responsibility for your life, you must choose one of those three options, and you must choose now. Then accept the consequences.”
If you choose to make some changes, the same process applies as for moving from a place of comfort. It might however be more of a challenge:
If you would like some help give me a call on 0421 775 924 or email firstname.lastname@example.org and we can make a time for a 30 minute discovery session, no cost, no obligation, to set you on your way and to see if ongoing coaching would be helpful for you.
Strengths Finder Assessment and Feedback
Doing Strengths Finder coaching has enabled me to see how I can make the most of my natural abilities. The test itself outlined 5 particular strengths but it was the coaching that meant I now know how to actually utilise this information. It is going to help me a great deal when it comes to my academic life and in particular how I can study in the most effective way. The coaching helps access the key to knowing your strengths and Deb has helped me devise a plan of how I can move forward with these skills. Her work with me has been vital to the Strengths Finder process and I would absolutely recommend the coaching as vital to finding your strengths.
Family Harmony Workshop for Parents
The course gave a great framework to build a more harmonious family - I find it difficult to explain to my teens why I don't like their behaviour but with this toolkit I am able to articulate this easily and less emotionally, resulting in better communication and a less charged atmosphere. Thanks Deb for the lifeline
Team Building Facilitation and Coaching
As a new Manager to a newly formed team of eight staff, I engaged Deb to facilitate our first team planning day. The objective of the day was to identify a shared vision and to start a process of strategic planning for the next three years. The day was a great success and set the team up with greater clarity of purpose and a framework for future planning.
Deb demonstrated a great understanding of the team, its context and challenges. This was due to her careful and thorough planning and reflections prior to the day. Deb managed the varying levels of engagement among the team exceptionally well; she did this with the establishment of clear ground rules and a sense of trust and respect. Deb listened actively and regularly questioned for greater clarity before reflecting on the team’s contributions.
We ended the day with a clear vision that was shared and in which all members felt they had an investment. Deb followed up regularly after the session to check in on progress and to provide advice about next steps. We were extremely lucky to have been able to work with Deb at this important stage of the team’s development and I would not hesitate for a moment in engaging Deb again.
Angela Hehir, (Manager)
Business Leadership Coaching
Debra's help in getting me to focus on the strategic direction of my business and my work-life priorities has proven invaluable. She has the ability to ask simple questions to create greater clarity and focus in both work and personal goals. Debra is a great listener, follows up on her clients and creates a great support base for her clients through recommending network groups, courses and reading material. For those who want a leadership coach that goes that extra mile,
I highly recommend her.
Yvette Audet, Sport & Recreation Management Services
360 degree feedback and Mentoring
Debra provided feedback on my 360 leader/manger profile. I have taken this style of development tool on two prior occasions and found the feedback underwhelming. This time I found that Debra has an empathetic and approachable feedback style. Previously I have felt very much that I was being placed in a stereotypical box.
I liked Debra,s approach and understood more that the outcomes of the survey reflect a favored management leadership style and this could be flexible. Debra is able to draw out your thoughts on how you feel others perceive you rather than preaching which was a great attribute.
We talked about the outcomes and the way forward and I was left with a comfortable feeling that I could achieve my higher aims. Debra provided positive feedback and kept in contact after the initial interview. Her trouble in organizing some key topic papers and net links was commendable. I hope very much to take Debra up on some future mentoring and would highly recommend Debra’s leadership skill set to you.
Professor Tim Lyons, Newcastle
Concrete personal career goals
I have appreciated my coaching sessions this year more than I can say. Deb has challenged me at every turn which I have loved, making me work hard to find my own solutions during an extremely professionally challenging year. This has been extremely satisfying.
I also now have concrete personal career goals and a plan on how to get there – non existent when I started coaching and really not something I consciously thought I needed. As a consequence I feel more focused and motivated for the next year and beyond.
Finally I would have to say my coaching session with Deb have been an absolute lifeline for me this year, keeping me on track, helping me to grow and learn and ultimately make a monumental shift in my approach and style as a leader. I am very grateful for her time, patience, humor and professionalism – I am certainly am better leader thanks to coaching with Deb.
Bernadette Hollis, Sydney